My spot on the path - Marriage

I am a very lucky man. My wife Louise and I have been married for over three years and I must say I love her more now than ever. The last year has been an incredible time of learning for me about being a husband and serving my wife. I will say this, it is because of no one, no one at all, other than Jesus Christ that I am a better husband today than 12 months ago. Not me, not Louise, not anyone else. Christ.

Life seems to be a process of surrenduring yourself for the better of others. From Childhood to highschool to college to post college, there are circumstances in life that require more and more selflessness. Marriage though, is probably the first large jump in required selflessness (kids later, but I can't speak to that now). If you aren't prepared to give up your own interests for the benefit of another, don't get married. Love requires sacrifice. There is no way around it. You must be willing to care more about someone else than you do yourself. This is easy to say, but harder to live. It is really a learned behavior that takes intentional effort.

Louise is a beautiful woman with a wonderful heart and contageous kindness. We are more in tune to each other's needs now than ever. God has grown in both of us a greater heart to serve one another. She is truly my best friend.

Love requires sacrifice and intentional effort. You can't teach what Louise and I have learned about loving each other. You just learn it through living it. If you live it with a heart for the Lord and seek His will, peace, and goodness, you will indeed learn it.


Ephesians 5: 25-33 A beautifully written, God ordained passage on marriage. May I as a husband continue to feed on the truth of the Bible alone.

25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh." 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Amen!